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Today is my 19th day in Onederland. Haven't really moved much inland and made myself at home yet. Still hanging out at the border.
Three days ago, I upped my walking to 5 miles a day! This is a miracle for me - especially since I have been so busy preparing the basement for my daughter and grandkids to move back in. Mostly, it's been my husband, myself and my twin friends who have been doing all the work. On Friday morning, my daughter and granddaughter came to help. On Friday night and last night, my granddaughter's father and his fiancee came to help. It's been a team effort for sure. We should be able to move furniture in a couple of days. Well over 100 boxes and bags have been moved into a storage trailer. Unfortunately, some of my son's stuff (like record albums and his original artworks) have to be stored upstairs because there is no temp control in the trailer.
I'd say we are well over halfway done with the clean-out & cleaning process. June 9th is the date my daughter is supposed to be kicked out of her home. That gives us just 11 days to have everything else out, and have the place cleaned before she can start moving in any of HER stuff. I'm pretty confident we'll be actively involved in her moving OUT process, too. No rest for our weary souls! Yesterday, we worked down there from 7am-8:45am, then got ready and went to church. After church, worked from 12:15-2:15pm, and then my granddaughter and her father came and worked another two hours that evening. I've been getting a LOT more exercise than I "normally" do! In addition to the walking, I'm doing bending, lifting, packaging, carrying vacuuming, sweeping, walking up and down stairs. I'm surprised I haven't lost more than 1.4 pounds this week, but I'm not complaining.
OK starting this morning's shift at 9am. I have four hours before then to get in 4 more miles of walking (takes almost 2 hours) and do 16 knee exercises (takes about an hour and a half). Also have a couple things to do upstairs before I head down.
All is going pretty well in my life. Too busy to spend as much time as I'd like on the FS site. Thinking of you all, though, and praying you are having a victorious journey to better health!
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1401 kcal
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Fat: 61.39g | Prot: 36.33g | Carbs: 187.18g.
Breakfast: Butter, Domino Sugar Granulated Sugar, Great Value Sun-Dried Raisins, A2 2% Milk, Pecan Nuts, Quaker Old Fashioned Oats. Lunch: La Choy Rice Noodles, Chinese Casserole (serving is 1/8th of casserole). Dinner: Kroger Caramel Cake, Honeydew Melons . Snacks/Other: Keebler Chips Deluxe Cookies Chocolate Lovers (1), Nature's Own Brioche Style Butter Rolls, Hobe's Country Ham, Hershey's Kit Kat, Watermelon, Honeydew Melons. more...
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I can only imagine the stress associated with all of this. Good on you for hanging in there and having such a positive attitude about it all!
29 May 23 by member: Annisworkingonit
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Though you seem overwhelmed, you also seem to have a plan in place so things should work out well if you can stick to your plan. Sending prayers and best wishes it all works out for the best.
29 May 23 by member: Fordtudor37
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Annisworkingonit, Joe Not Exotic and Fordtudor37, thank you for the kind words of encouragement. God has been gracious to sustain me during this turbulent time. My daughter does not at all want to move out of her home and have to move back in with her parents. In her depression and anger about the situation, she has been lashing out at us, even though we have been bending over backwards trying to make a nice home for her downstairs. Yesterday, I texted her that she was being very unkind and unfair to us, and she apologized. Trying to be understanding of how hard this must be for her, but not letting her get away with taking it out on us!
29 May 23 by member: Debbie Cousins
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May not be a consolation but i have found the people we love the most feel “safe” lashing out at us. Especially if a child. There is a high degree of uncertainty that no matter what awful thing is said it wont alter the tremendous love we feel one bit. Doesn’t make it hurt less especially when its not an ideal situation for anyone but take some comfort in knowing she knows you love her greatly🥰. God bless you Debbie.
29 May 23 by member: Yearofhealth2023
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Thank you for sharing part of your journey. I'm so proud of you for reaching Onederland and being able to hang out there. I've been there in the last year but just for a hot minute! I know kids can be thoughtless. I'm happy she has some insight regarding her behavior. BIG LOVE to you all as that is generally how we get through these things with a seesaw of Validate these feelings/behaviors and Challenge those. HUGS from KS!
30 May 23 by member: DarcNKS
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Wow you are one busy gal! Congratulations on wonderland!💜👍
30 May 23 by member: Diana 1234
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OK this is long but please bear with me -- Please take a step back and look at the "entire situation" that all are going through "right now". Your daughter is going thru her own "Cascade of Failures" both mentally and physically at the same time, from the "Why didn't I see it happening" to ""How am I suppose to go on ?" to "How will the kids go on ?", "What about the kids - What will thier friends say about them ? What will thier friends parents say about me ?","I failed my kids, failed myself and now I have to move back in with my parents", "Why did I trust anyone so much ?", "Will things ever get better for me or the kid's ?"and the kids are saying "What is going to happen, are we going to get kicked out soon ?", "Should I bother to do anything and relax if we might have to move again ?" -- There are so many questions going on in her head, the kid's head's and "the physical act" (steps taken to move in) is "Physical Vindication that she failed which is mentally demeaning" and it makes her angry at herself and those around her unintentionally, so she lashed out at whoever is there. THEN you have the emotional journey you are on of "Is she going ot be ok ?", We are all human and we ask of everyone "How could she let this happen ?", or "How long do you think she will need to stay ?" -- You currently are ALL on deep sea cruiseliner in a heavy swell storm of emotion's and physical action's that there will be argueing and anger, so be ready for it - but with calm headedness and each one (including you and your husband) thier own space to be "left alone to think" things will get better. My best thought to all of you is this -- "In a way right now, You are all in mourning for what you thought life was going to be. Let it go and start anew, one day at a time. Just be there every day now matter how bad it get's, so the kids know there is a safe harbor somewhere. God Bless and I wih you all the best, I know it will not be easy as I was one of those kids years ago.
01 Jun 23 by member: Fordtudor37
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